Sacred Union Marriage: The Original Hieros Gamos Within

By Jelelle Awen

Across the ancient world and in many timelines, the sacred marriage, or the ‘hieros gamos’ as it was called in Ancient Greece, served as a ritualized reminder that creation itself is born from the dance of opposites. Sky and earth, sun and moon, king and queen, dark and light, god and goddess: each polarity became a living metaphor for the greater truth that nothing comes into form without union.

Yet in those earlier eras, the hieros gamos lived mostly in the realm of symbol, myth, and priestly rite. A king and priestess might enact the union to ensure the land’s fertility. A ritual marriage might be performed to legitimize a ruler’s authority. The bodies and ceremonies of humans stood in for the Divine, calling down blessing, order, union, and prosperity.

The deeper essence beneath these practices was always the same: Life flourishes when the masculine and feminine are in harmony. Life suffers when they fall into separation.

In the Divine Self Embodiment process, this ancient truth is now evolving. The hieros gamos is no longer an externalized ritual performed on behalf of the collective. It is becoming an inner

initiation, an intimate union that each soul is invited to cultivate within themselves. The sacred marriage moves from symbolic union between gods to a lived in and loved in union between the

masculine and feminine currents of your own consciousness.

This is the new sacred marriage: a living relationship inside you between your inner masculine and feminine, leading to a balanced expression of clarity and intuition, structure and flow, sky and earth, knowing and love.

When these inner partners reconcile with one another and are no longer fused or at war, they create a field of coherence within the emotional body, the soul body, and the physical body. Your

everyday relational ground becomes the place where Divinity reveals itself through human form.

And, as this inner hieros gamos unfolds, the outer sacred union with a mate becomes an extension rather than a substitution. Two beings who have cultivated inner union can more easily be together without rescuing, without projection, without the push-pull of unmet childhood needs.

Their love becomes creative, evolutionary, and devotional. Not as reenactment of ancient rites, but as the living embodiment of the Divine seeking expression through their relationship.

In this way, the modern hieros gamos is no longer a ritual designed to ensure the fertility of the land, but a frequency that ensures the fertility of the soul. It maintains not just cosmic order in a kingdom, but coherence in the human heart. It doesn't validate patriarchal rule, but co-created sovereignty.

Hieros gamos is the maturation of our inner masculine and inner feminine into a partnership of mutual respect, attunement, and devotion. It is the healing of the split inside that has kept so many women and men longing for a partner to complete what has felt missing within.

Inner sacred union is the true origin point of outer sacred union. It is the wellspring from which intimacy with another can arise without collapse, bypass, control, or fusion. When we speak of inner sacred union, we are speaking of the alchemy between your inner woman, your inner man, and the younger parts of you who hold your core wounds and deepest gifts. They are living energies, longings, fears, protections and gifts that shape every relational experience you have.

Before two people are negotiating intimacy with each other, they are each navigating intimacy with their own inner constellation. This is why the journey of inner sacred union takes a woman first into the depths of her unhealed heart. To the places where her inner child felt unmet. To the places where her inner masculine felt burdened with jobs he did not understand. To the places where longing was confused for guidance and anxiety was mistaken for intuition.

This is the beginning of the marriage. Not just bliss, but truth. Not completion, but revelation.

The sacred marriage is returning to what it was always meant to be: a union inside you that births wisdom, clarity, attunement, and love… and eventually a union between beloveds that becomes a mirror of the Divine made flesh.

Love,

Jelelle

This is an excerpt from my upcoming book Free To be She that I felt was poignant to share during this ongoing portal between 11:11 and 12:12 when much is coming into alignment within us and sorting in our relationships inside and out. Pic is of Raphael and I on Samhain and our ever evolving and growing inner and out hieros gamos….

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Here is a video of Jelelle talking more about Hieros Gamos: Inner Sacred Union Marriage